Switch to enabling patroni by default with new patroni role

What does this MR do?

Switch to enabling patroni by default with new patroni role Throw an error early in reconfigure if someone is trying to use repgmr with PG12

Related issues

Part of #5888 (closed)

Closes: #5921 (closed)

Checklist

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Expected (please provide an explanation if not completing)

• Test plan indicating conditions for success has been posted and passes
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Test Plan

• Test fresh install patroni role - get patroni
• Test fresh install explicit repmgr - get PG 12 error
• Test fresh install explicit repmgr with PG 11 - gets repmgr