Make merge-ref diffs the default comparison mode

What does this MR do?

Makes merge-ref in diffs the default comparison mode and also hides the BASE comparison option when merge-ref is available.

Per the issue here: #198458 (closed)

Merge request diffs are currently calculated by git diff target...source which compares HEAD of target with the merge base of target and source. This works well until changes from the target branch are merged in to the source branch, creating a complete mess of the diff.

Does this MR meet the acceptance criteria?

Conformity

• Changelog entry
• Documentation (if required)
• Code review guidelines
• Merge request performance guidelines
• Style guides
• Database guides
• Separation of EE specific content

Availability and Testing

• Review and add/update tests for this feature/bug. Consider all test levels. See the Test Planning Process.
• Tested in all supported browsers
• Informed Infrastructure department of a default or new setting change, if applicable per definition of done

Closes #198458 (closed)