Utility for detecting cross DB data modification

What does this MR do?

This MR adds spec helper utilities to prevent multi-database data modifications within transactions. This MR is part of the epic: &6168 (closed)

Example:

it 'test', :ci_data_modification_check do
  Issue.transaction do
    issue.touch
    Ci::Pipeline.create() # raises error
  end
end

There can be cases when we need to disable the check:

it 'test', :ci_data_modification_check do
  Gitlab::Database.allow_cross_database_modification_within_transaction(url: '...') do
    Issue.transaction do
      issue.touch
      Ci::Pipeline.create() # no errors
    end
  end
end

Note: the check is disabled by default.

Does this MR meet the acceptance criteria?

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Related to #336417 (closed)