Optimize merge request permission check for references

What does this MR do?

Contributes to #271242 (closed)

Problem

ReferenceRedactorFilter verifies and hides references to merge requests that are not available for the user. It uses #can_read_reference? method and provides user and merge request objects to it.

But #can_read_reference? is an expensive call especially when we trigger it thousands of times.

Solution

:read_merge_request_iid depends on the user and the project. This allows us to cache the result of user-project pair permission check and apply it to all merge requests of the same project.

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