Database should be read-only in maintenance mode

What does this MR do?

Related: #295194 (closed) and #295286 (closed)

This fix makes read_only? method consistent and makes sure that graphql queries that write to the db don't go through.

There is a demo that walks you through all the fixes this MR enables, it will be posted later.

Screenshots (strongly suggested)

Does this MR meet the acceptance criteria?

Conformity

• Changelog entry
• Documentation (if required)
• Code review guidelines
• Merge request performance guidelines
• Style guides
• Database guides
• Separation of EE specific content

Availability and Testing

• Review and add/update tests for this feature/bug. Consider all test levels. See the Test Planning Process.
• Tested in all supported browsers
• Informed Infrastructure department of a default or new setting change, if applicable per definition of done

Security

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• The MR includes necessary changes to maintain consistency between UI, API, email, or other methods
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