Fix cross joins in member_owners_excluding_project_bots

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Related issue: #417455 (closed)

Fix cross joins in member_owners_excluding_project_bots

We fix the cross join to users by preloading the related user in batches, then filtering out project bots.

This is acceptable because all callers already to load the relation in one form or another.

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