[15.10] Patch mail gem to handle TLS settings properly

What does this MR do and why?

This backports !116925 (merged) to the 15-10-stable-ee branch.

While https://github.com/mikel/mail/pull/1526 made it possible to disable STARTTLS with Ruby 3, there were a number of logic errors that were fixed in https://github.com/mikel/mail/pull/1536.

We pull in those changes so that existing users don't have to modify their configurations to omit tls and ssl settings to disable STARTTLS.

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