feat(datastore): close connections of retired replicas during DLB

mentioned in commit 09a142a8

mentioned in issue #1368 (closed)

mentioned in merge request gitlab-org/charts/gitlab!3938 (merged)

mentioned in merge request omnibus-gitlab!7965 (merged)

mentioned in merge request gitlab-org/build/CNG!2052 (merged)

mentioned in merge request gitlab-com/gl-infra/k8s-workloads/gitlab-com!3903 (merged)

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