Update Geo docs after demo feedback

What does this MR do?

Updates the docs based on the demo & discussion in gitlab-org/gitlab#36965 (comment 419754577):

• Disable puma by default on the db-only hosts
• Explicitly mention creating the charts files
• Create the geo secret before the chart on the primary
• Differentiate the two database connection strings on the secondary

Related issues

Closes gitlab-org/gitlab#36965 (closed)

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