Better error message when external status check uniqueness fails
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See https://gitlab.com/gitlab-org/gitlab/-/merge_requests/164387#note_2087835133
This is to implement a more detailed error message when a status check name/url is taken when creating/updating them. This will involve:
- update ~backend to send a more detailed message in the graphql responses
- update ~frontend to display message
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