CE port of https://gitlab.com/gitlab-org/gitlab-ee/merge_requests/14520

What does this MR do?

CE port of https://gitlab.com/gitlab-org/gitlab-ee/merge_requests/14520

Includes:

• migration to add commit_id to draft_notes table
• diff_refs_match_commit validation moved to DiffPositionableNote concern so it can be re-used.

Does this MR meet the acceptance criteria?

Conformity

• [-] Changelog entry
• [-] Documentation created/updated or follow-up review issue created
• Code review guidelines
• [-] Merge request performance guidelines
• Style guides
• Database guides
• [-] Separation of EE specific content

Performance and testing

• [-] Review and add/update tests for this feature/bug. Consider all test levels. See the Test Planning Process.
• [-] Tested in all supported browsers

Security

If this MR contains changes to processing or storing of credentials or tokens, authorization and authentication methods and other items described in the security review guidelines:

• [-] Label as security and @ mention @gitlab-com/gl-security/appsec
• [-] The MR includes necessary changes to maintain consistency between UI, API, email, or other methods
• [-] Security reports checked/validated by a reviewer from the AppSec team

https://gitlab.com/gitlab-org/gitlab-ee/issues/10646