lang/ruby30: Optionize OPENSSL module builds

- ruby 3.0 do not have official OpenSSL 3 support although some other
  vendors are merging patches from 3.1. Untill there is something solid
  optionize OPENSSL to build openssl modules only on 12 and 13 while
  turning off for 14.
- Utilize USES=localbase
- Considering no upstream support for OpenSSL on ruby 3.0 reduce the
  EXPIRATION_DATE to 2024-03-30(Last day of official support) as there
  is no point in carrying this over to the next quarterly.

Approved by:	portmgr (blanket)
Sponsored by:	The FreeBSD Foundation